Why we must be more careful when we are dealing with those whom we love?

 

Recently ,i watched a famous dating show from China named 非成物绕 or fei cheng wu rao. I heard the host said something which is extremely meaningful. The host said that we should be more careful while talking to our loved ones because people who love us would take our words or behavior seriously which means that it could alleviate or worsen their mood.

Even worse when it can cause trauma.Most people who are traumatized often say that they are traumatized by the incident which is related or caused by people who are close or dear to them.Most of the time ,they end up hating such their loved one who caused such trauma since the opposite of love Isn't hatred but it is indifference .

Sure,dictionary claimed that opposite of love is hatred .However , most of the time,people end up hating those whom they loved due to the wrongdoing that they did.The stronger the love that someone feel , the more the hatred will be produced by the trauma caused by someone who is dear to them since they feel that their trust and love is betrayed.Futhermore,they will feel very dissapointed and insecure with close relationship. Those who are vengeful regarding it would end up revenge using the private info that they knew about those that they loved.Revenge works better when you are close to your enemy.At the other side,it causes huge emotional damage to the person who is traumatized by their loved one.Many end up being unable to open up and trust other people easily.This makes them being unable to form good relationship with others.Not to mention that it could cause various type of illness such as depression,ptsd,anxiety etc.It is extremely hard for someone to improve their mental health once they get mental illness.

Action or words can be done easily but the consequence is heavy and can't be changed.Always be mindful while doing anything to avoid bad consequence to yourself nor anyone else.